tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6989244017794666113.post9040788893215289041..comments2011-03-28T19:16:57.480-04:00Bhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17821546519454782405noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6989244017794666113.post-41062240699438862962011-03-28T19:16:57.480-04:002011-03-28T19:16:57.480-04:00Not that I want to get into it with any mother, I think the grass is always greener...but teachers do have it nice...you get the break from the kids, and yet you have the same vaca time...although they do have all those papers all the time to grade...<br />and I commend you for not smacking her upside her head or really letting go on her..Not a Perfect Momhttp://www.notaperfectmomsblog.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6989244017794666113.post-11617552812744059932011-03-28T05:01:01.712-04:002011-03-28T05:01:01.712-04:00Totally hear you on that one. I get the same kind of comments even though I have a very full-on job that just happens to coincide with school hours. But the Moms see me with my kids before school and after school and assume I have nothing better to do all day. Very frustrating.Broothttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07018976488994837646noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6989244017794666113.post-85799710610314952852010-01-14T00:35:44.855-05:002010-01-14T00:35:44.855-05:00When my daughter was little I was stay at home mom. I worked at her school when she was in elementary school I was told I really didn&#39;t have a job and how lucky I was. Of course after a miscarriage it was so hard not to scream thanks to the people that told me I was lucky to have only one.... Then I became a single mother and had to work they told me how horrible it was that I wasn&#39;t a stay at home mom that it is was women are suppose to do.... You can never please everyone...... She just is a unhappy woman that has to make others feel bad to make herself feel goodMidnite Skyshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12449002751130609174noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6989244017794666113.post-20217166370778465532010-01-10T18:02:23.632-05:002010-01-10T18:02:23.632-05:00Nobody has the &quot;better&quot; job here. SAHM&#39;s are often isolated, and unless they&#39;re working part-time, or going to school, they&#39;re missing out on job skills if they need to re-enter the workforce.<br /><br />Working moms feel harried and maybe a bit jealous of the time that SAHM get to spend with their children.<br /><br />We need both. We need women who want to work - we meet them each day in our life. We need to stop sniping at each other about who has the &quot;easier&quot; gig - nobody does. It&#39;s all hard. We&#39;re all juggling kids and home and work (and staying at home IS work).<br /><br />I&#39;m an old broad - I went through this when I was at home with my kids in the 70s and 80s. Now that I&#39;m home again (can&#39;t find a job in this economy), and I have an autistic/bipolar middle schooler, I am going through it once more.<br /><br />From my point of view, it&#39;s easier this time around, mainly because I don&#39;t give a rat&#39;s ass what other women think. Thick skin is a real help.June Freaking Cleaverhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02516002280882854450noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6989244017794666113.post-41520835580383024552010-01-10T11:23:00.643-05:002010-01-10T11:23:00.643-05:00I also quit my job because the money was not worth the frustration and stress. But that doesn&#39;t mean staying at home is easy. It&#39;s a job, too, but with a different form of pay.<br /><br />I can&#39;t believe she said that! Sadly, if probably would have been a waste of time to let her have it. She wouldn&#39;t have really listened.Evonnehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18053569885496919527noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6989244017794666113.post-34897135022898200492010-01-10T09:56:31.858-05:002010-01-10T09:56:31.858-05:00This was great! I feel like going off on people every time they tell me I am &quot;so lucky&quot; that I get to stay home. Like I am a trust fund baby (so far from it my parents stole my savings bonds to pay bills!). Everyone makes sacrifices to be the kind of parent we want to be and until you have walked a mile in their shoes you just don&#39;t know enough to say anything!Mama Bhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06692372175623299858noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6989244017794666113.post-8146743088723455102010-01-08T14:36:59.373-05:002010-01-08T14:36:59.373-05:00{{hugs}}<br /><br />Sounds like she was just clueless and insensitive. At least, I hope she said it out of ignorance, and not malice.Holly Noelle @ Domestic Dorkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05588020192381538681noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6989244017794666113.post-50783075984127740442010-01-06T14:29:10.639-05:002010-01-06T14:29:10.639-05:00Wow, I can&#39;t believe someone would make such a comment to you! I would not have been as gracious and would have told her how I really felt. You are allowed to feel however you want, whether you stay at home part time, full time, or work 180 hours a week!<br /><br />I work full time, but I took last week off to spend time with my husband and son, and by Thursday I was ready to send him back to daycare! I can&#39;t imagine how crazy you felt with 3!<br /><br />Next time, let me kick her ass for you, I&#39;ll be happy to. :)Stephhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17739581191685744291noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6989244017794666113.post-81006865812955328652010-01-06T09:42:05.970-05:002010-01-06T09:42:05.970-05:00Thanks ladies. I KNEW you would all get it!Bhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17821546519454782405noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6989244017794666113.post-21050210170814481892010-01-05T20:35:45.837-05:002010-01-05T20:35:45.837-05:00I get frustrated by this conversation as well. It&#39;s as though some letter comes in the mail that you get to be a stay-at-home parent. Other moms give you the &quot;oh you&#39;re so lucky&quot;. Meanwhile they have no idea what is going on in your life and should just stuff it. <br />There is no reason you should have to justify your decision to anyone!JoeyReshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06219074986338894660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6989244017794666113.post-17315573043734919642010-01-05T18:13:09.283-05:002010-01-05T18:13:09.283-05:00Stopping by from SITS!<br /><br />Honestly, you refrained from saying a whole hell of a lot because it seems you DO a hell of a lot and she would have had an earful if you had let loose on her. The truth of the matter is, though, that even if you NEVER worked after your kids were born and NEVER did any volunteer work or had a difficult part time job that you work from home... you STILL should not have to justify yourself! Our job as a stay at home mom is excruciatingly difficult. It&#39;s physically and emotionally draining. There&#39;s no year end review to let us know how we&#39;re doing. There&#39;s no commute to ease our minds. There&#39;s no downtime... it&#39;s just go go go. And if this one has never stayed home with her kids, she wouldn&#39;t realize all of this. It sounds as if she takes her time AWAY from her kids for granted. <br /><br />I feel lucky to be able to stay home with my kids after working for the first young years of their lives. BUT, I think this job is so much harder than my office job. I miss my office. I miss going to the bathroom alone. I miss chatting with random people in the hallways. Not that I&#39;d change how I have it, but it&#39;s more draining to me. <br /><br />Bottom line - to each their own. I don&#39;t judge and neither should anyone else. <br /><br />Sorry to ramble - this lady just GOT to me! Glad you were able to vent in your post! That&#39;s what we&#39;re here for!beccahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15616867595961283505noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6989244017794666113.post-67148716919659466952010-01-05T14:46:57.478-05:002010-01-05T14:46:57.478-05:00Gurllll......... oh man this hits a nerve... I have been home with the kids for 2 years now and I have always worked multiple jobs like you and working around my kids...<br /><br />SHE is so lucky it was not a rican!!! OMG you are an awesome person to refrain because I would have ripped into her like nobody&#39;s business... Seriously people need to think before they speak.<br /><br />I get that now when i say I am a stay at home mom and I say i can&#39;t wait for Chloe to start kinder.... I just tell it like it is. Noone now says I word.<br /><br />I am a medical assistant( 8 years). I am going back to school next year to become a nurse. I so admire what you do. I understand what you mean.<br /><br />ROCK on sister! That woman just better hope she doesn&#39;t run into me ROFL :DG-Zellhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18095787568647802943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6989244017794666113.post-33927709102901441622010-01-05T12:15:41.002-05:002010-01-05T12:15:41.002-05:00Hugs honey! You were 100% correct and I&#39;m glad you got it off your chest. Saying any of this to &quot;her&quot; wouldn&#39;t have helped; she just doesn&#39;t get it.<br /><br />I&#39;ve been on both sides, working and stay at home, and both have their own ups and downs. I stay home because I can and that&#39;s not a priviledge I take lightly. My husband busts his butt so I can stay home, but I don&#39;t SIT ON MINE! I do all the things I would have to do while working too, but I do them when everyone is gone, so we have fun family time when everyone is here!<br /><br />My husband prefers me home and me being able to really makes him feel proud. So bonus.<br /><br />Live your life. Ignore the Wankers!!!Queenie Jeanniehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13372885558434883470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6989244017794666113.post-48438461574398952812010-01-04T21:37:43.622-05:002010-01-04T21:37:43.622-05:00Very well said!! I wish that more people thought before they spoke!!mellisarockhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15500358825836828384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6989244017794666113.post-88251742249017253932010-01-04T21:35:41.503-05:002010-01-04T21:35:41.503-05:00So true. I had a{n} {almost} similar situation happen today on a totally different topic - because I was sad my son went back to school today. Why is it that anything we say that is different from what others think or do is wrong? I just don&#39;t understand people like the lady that said those things to you or the person who offended me today. Good grief! My hat is off to any mother, working {part- or full-time} and stay at home.<br /><br />You described yours so well, but stop by and read about mine if you have time.<br /><br />http://joymadefull.blogspot.comJacquie @ Joy Made Fullhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16904008470223651943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6989244017794666113.post-25353241782666006112010-01-04T20:53:57.207-05:002010-01-04T20:53:57.207-05:00You are my hero! I say this almost every day to the people around me.Amyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05791473399889554351noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6989244017794666113.post-77904807296194097762010-01-04T20:41:26.335-05:002010-01-04T20:41:26.335-05:00VERY well said, she needs to get a copy of this! LOL!Chrissy MacCEOhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07359896174828097556noreply@blogger.com