Welcome to my new weekly feature: Mom Matters. Each Monday I will be discussing a matter that is effecting me in my gig as a mom.
I'm over the hurdles of baby and toddler hoods but now I'm navigating the territory that finds me smack dab in the middle of childhood. My babies are getting older and this brings new opportunities, new friends, new milestones and new challenges. I shared with you my challenge of cutting the cord a few weeks back and I face things like that on a regular basis.
I was recently asked if my 7 year old daughter could sleep over a friends house. I said no. Luckily, this is one thing my husband happens to agree with me on. I think they are too young and I don't want to start the habit of them asking for sleepovers all the time.
I have also declared my house a no sleepover zone. I cherish my sleep. When I tuck my kids in for the night, I'm done. I don't want to have to worry about someone else's child, I don't want to be kept awake by giggling kids, I don't want to be woken up in the middle of the night by a homesick kid. I have friends who have been swapping sleepovers with their children's friends since the kids were 4. I think that is insanely young to be sleeping over someones house that isn't family.
However, it got me to thinking....I used to LOVE sleepovers with my friends. My first sleepover was for my birthday party in 3rd grade. I still have pictures of that party and can remember the fun we had. Sleepovers became a regular part of my childhood and teenage years with my best friends.
My eldest is 10 years old and in 4th grade this year yet, I tell him no sleep overs just like I tell my 1st grade daughter. (my 3rd grade son hasn't been asked yet) So why was it fine for me to be having sleepovers but not for my children? I think that though I like to say I'm not an over protective parent, perhaps I'm a bit more protective than I've ever admitted before. Am I denying them a right of passage of childhood by not allowing them to sleep over friends houses? Or am I over thinking the whole thing?
Where do you stand on sleepovers? The more kids the merrier OR pack them up and send them home?
PS...I'd love to have contributing writers guest post on their matters as well. It doesn't matter if you matter is big or small, or what stage of parenthood. If you are interested, drop me an email!