I don't know about you gals, but I personally am at my wits end. I'm tired of nagging, yelling, refereeing, screaming, threating and grounding. Really, I'm e x h a u s t e d. I'm drained. I can't take another day of it. So, I've been wracking my brain to come up with a solution to the mayhem.
Many moms I know are into positive reinforcement. I've always laughed a bit at it. I mean, should the kids really have to be rewarded for behaving and doing the things they should be doing? It always seemed backwards to me. However, I'm going to give in and give it a try. I've got to change the way I'm doing something because obviously what I'm doing isn't working! I'm trying to come up with a system that isn't too complicated. I don't want it to be too time consuming for me or too confusing for them and I hope it will eventually teach self monitoring.
This is the plan I've come up with so far. I'm still tweaking it but hope to figure it all out soon so I can set it in motion. I'm going to post a list of responsibilities on the fridge. For each one they do without having to be reminded a zillion times (in the beginning I'll give them a reminder or 2 then hopefully eliminate them), they will earn a ticket. They will also be able to earn extra tickets from time to time for lending hand when asked with "special" tasks or if they are "caught" being good. They will lose tickets for things like FIGHTING with their sibblings or talking back to their parents. They will then have to use their tickets to buy rewards such as TV time, playdates, movie nights and video game time.
I am also going to start a collection box for things found left lying around the house. They will have to use tickets to "buy" these items back.
I'm open to suggestions so, PLEASE, share with me what has worked for you!!! I'm on a quest to restore my sanity.